As my divorce from my first wife was occurring, I was beginning a new career working for a Mental Health System in Dothan, Alabama. I met many good people there. Let me say here that I will always treasure the time spent there and the relationships that formed there. I had some of my greatest joys while employed there, working with some of the most competent people I have ever known. But I also continued down a path that would lead me further away from God. I focused more on the needs of my flesh than on the will of God. I know, I know....it doesn't sound very spiritual and it was not. One thing I have learned is that true ministry is sacrificing oneself for the benefit of others. It is the daily "crucifying" of the flesh (the flesh is not redeemable, it must be crucified daily). The path to the "dark side" of flesh fulfillment seldom begins with sexual promiscuity, which is what we think about when we hear someone say they fulfilled the needs of their flesh. Focusing on the needs of the flesh is the subtle "slip" of changing focus from God to what I want, what I deserve, what I need,.....I, I ,I....you get the picture. It usually leads to the fulfillment of base desire fulfillment such as selfish sex, but doesn't usually begin there. It is significant to me that when we are born again and come to Christ as our Lord and Savior, we are still under the "bondage" of our flesh. Paul discussed this at great length in His epistles as did Jesus in much of the gospels. We are called on to "crucify" (put to death our flesh) daily in order to embrace the will of God for our lives. Without this daily crucifixion, Godly living is impossible. The Holy Spirit, who comes to us as Christ within us at salvation, makes the crucifixion of the flesh possible. However, as a part of the "daily dying", there is a priority to minister to those closest to you. I always heard professors talk in Bible College about putting God first, your family second (because closeness with God makes you a better husband and father), and the church or other things can take successive priority after these two things. This point is crucial. Ministry is supposed to be the "overflow" of the first TWO things (relationship with God and subsequently family). I had a theology professor who told each of us while we were in Bible college that if things were not right in our family to STOP what most of us considered ministry and align with your spouse before continuing on in the pursuit of "ministry". At the time, I didn't think what he said was very "spiritual" but I have since learned that he was very much correct and his advice should have been heeded.
I know that many people may have viewed my leaving the Pastorate as "running from God." It was not. It was actually a step in the right direction. What came next, however, was not the right direction. I needed to take a step away to focus on my primary mission field, my family. I needed to seek God more then than at any other time in my life to that point. I needed to obtain Godly counsel (it was offered from various sources but I did not seek it or receive it). I needed to get on the same page with my wife and daughter. I did not. I am not speaking for every person who has problems in their marriage. I know that sometimes, people make decisions to go another way. Spouses leave with no opportunity for restoration. But that was not the case with me. I had an opportunity to repair "the broken walls." Day by day, however, I began to "slip" into the abyss of my flesh. I sought others who would counsel me according to the "flesh". Not bad people, just people who were not seeking God FIRST. Scripture tells us to "plant our trees" in good soil and to not sit in the counsel of the ungodly. Ungodly does not necessarily mean horrible or appearing to be "bad", but rather not seeking the will of God FIRST. Many good people do not give Godly counsel. It doesn't mean they are bad. It just means that their priority is not in line with what I stated above (God first, family second, everything else after). Notice that self is not included in the priority of order that I listed. Most humanistic disciplines focus on taking care of self FIRST. God says to SEEK HIM FIRST and all your needs will be met according to his riches in glory (remember the lilies of the field, how they neither toil nor spin yet they are arrayed in splendor). Godly counsel always takes into consideration Godly order of priorities. It is prudent to mention here that unless a person has been born again, they cannot have priorities in the proper order. For many that want to go Godly things, Satan's deception is for the person to focus on what EVERYONE ELSE says is God's will instead of putting things in the order that God has designed for the normal Christian Life. Just as there is a dangerous trend in the church today of "health and wealth" for those who follow Christ, there is also a deception of humanistic psychology that waters down the Christian life by saying that one should focus on their "self" needs first and then they can minister to others. This is not what God says. He says seek HIM first (which means that you must crucify your flesh). The flesh is not redeemable. It must be crucified. This is why relationship with God and putting Him first is so important. However, when a person marries another, they become ONE FLESH. That is ONE unit that must die daily to flesh in order to embrace the will of God. If that is not happening, then ministry should be focused SOLELY on the relationship of the two who are one flesh so that healing and restoration can occur. Until the two who have become ONE can crucify the flesh together, there is no greater "mission field" than the one at HOME. This I believe is one of the most important ministries of the Church. The family unit is the primary unit in God's Army (not church congregations). When Satan attacks, his strategy is usually to attack in the home's of those who are seeking to follow the Will of God. Why? He cannot destroy God, so He seeks to destroy at the next possible level, which is the "ONE FLESH" in the home. Herein lies the truth. When the ONE FLESH is crucified, the power of the cross is resurrected in the family unit in Kingdom of God POWER. The Power of God manifests strongly when family units are UNITED in the "crucifying of the flesh."However, when the ONE FLESH is attacked and gives in to the flesh, selfishness reigns and the family unit is destroyed. (to be continued)
No comments:
Post a Comment